Love

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"Only a person who loves can be loved.
Love means kindness, understanding, wisdom and respect.
Incorporate those attributes with your thinking, and your life will be
fulfilled with warmth and compassion. There will never be an
emotion with true happiness unless you give your
love so that you can receive love." - Al Rosen, Former American League Most Valuable Player


Today I woke up thankful

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"Santosha is the peaceful happiness that develops
as you learn to accept and love yourself. To start a day more
vital, give thanks for what you have and who you are."

Today I woke up early at six o'clock. What special about this, was that I actually got out of bed instead of succumbing to the urge of going back to bed and sleep until ten a.m.

I did that today because I now have a different attitude about where I am at this point of my life, how I am as mother to these three boys, how I am as a wife, and more importantly---- on who I am. I worry too much, prideful that I deserve more; afraid of losing faith in myself, in all the good things possible, in this marriage. Today, as I got out of bed, I gave thanks to the Lord, with all the humility in my heart that I, like the hundreds and thousands of people who are confused and afraid, still feels His loving presence through my family and friends, and the good people I encounter in life. Today I got up knowing that every step I take from now on in is always a step forward.


Life is a gift.

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One of the many mysteries is the gift of life. That which is so delicate, priceless, and precious.
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Yoga Smile

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Every time I come out of a yoga session, I am always with a big bright smile ...

kinda like this guy



No, that guy has a big wide grin.

This guy here....


Hmmmnn... he is chuckling. Yoga does not make me chuckle.

I think this one...


Yep, that smile. It's close but still not quite.

Here.


Yes. This one. That's the kind of smile I get. Mysterious huh. It's not. It's bliss.



When I feel the least thankful

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“It’s not easy being grateful all the time.
But it’s when you feel least thankful that you
are most in need of what gratitude can give you.” - Oprah


When I was living in Toronto, and was working full time, the way I dealt with my problems or issues were using the words, "Forget it!" or "I'm too busy to even worry about that" or, "I have no time". When my family moved here to Yellowknife, my issues were a lot different than before, not only that they were so different, I have all the time in the world to think, to worry, and to feel them. So there are times I do feel less thankful, and maybe when you feel the least thankful, maybe these can help you. I practice this everyday. There are times that I forget and that happens, I try not to fret but instead I just continue on with my day thinking of how to make the day much better than yesterday.

So here:
1. When you get up in the morning, notice your feet, your hands, your whole body. Be thankful you are still alive. Smile right away.
2. Acknowledge yourself. Feel the energy. Fuel that energy with love and high spirit that you can give to others, whether at home or at work, or to some random people you may encounter during the day. I give my love and energy to my boys.
3. Say grace before meal. Be grateful of the abundance that is given to you through God's blessing. I love it when after every time we say grace before meal, my youngest Jesse says "Eating time!"
4. Look at your own life. Examine it. Know that everyone makes mistakes, but what makes the difference is learning the lesson and improving from it. You can never feel better comparing your own life to others. They too have problems you are not even aware of and sometimes they do not even know is coming. Same as you.
5. Feed your hunger for excellence even if it just means taking time to read a good book or doing the crossword puzzles. I write. And I do volunteer work.
6. Practice kindness. When you do, people notice and remember and then as you are spreading kindness, you feed from the kindness that comes back. Sometimes it comes back, but sometimes it does not. But when it does come back, it comes back in doubles.
7. Give love. You can give love even through email. I give love through hugs. I mostly give them to my boys. We do a lot of group hugs.
8. Be inspired. I remember how shopping makes me feel excited. And I realized that although shopping helped me to have a good day, it is not my source of inspiration. Rather, it was my addiction. Words of wisdom are truly one of the sources of my inspirations. The words I read, my spirit feeds on them and after writing them down, after I have expressed my thoughts, I feel content. I feel that I am satisfied.
9. Do not be attached or fixated on material things. Remember that their value depreciates, and goes out of style. You, your spirit, your value should never be based on what you have or what you own. Remember that everything can be lost in a blink of an eye especially at this time of economic uncertainty.
10. Shift your mindset. Do something else out of your routine, sometimes even out of your comfort zone. When you find yourself going to the computer and it depresses you, then stop. Watch a funny movie. Or when you feel you are starting to feel down, or lousy, or depressed, take a run, a walk or jog. Sometimes, a distraction helps. One night, I was writing and my husband came into the room I said, "Oh you are a distraction." He said, "I thought I was an inspiration." I said, "No. Not this time. But being a distraction is not bad. Not at all." I stopped and put my journal down. I turned to him as he lay down on my side, and curled right next to him with a smile. On my journal, the last words I had written were, "I am such a sad woman..." and I never got to continue that piece.

And for something extra. Always leave something extra in case of emergencies, right? Or when everything else has been tried and exhausted.

11. Say a prayer. Notice your breath. Give thanks to the Lord, for all His blessings, His undying love, for keeping you healthy and safe, for keeping your loved ones healthy and safe, and for keeping you --- that you are ready to face another day.

Note on Success

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Try not to become a man of success
but rather try to become a man of value.---Albert Einstein

Now is this not something to think about? Because admit it or not, in today's age, success is determined based on material things and superficial ideas. And value is measured by one's net worth. At least that's what we can mostly read in the news, in magazines, on the net, and on t.v.

Think about it, the economy crashes down, the United States on deficit and unable to pay their debts results to a lower rating by S&P, and what do we think about them? That's it, they are going down, they are no longer the number one country, they now have less value.

That's a big picture and too much for what I really want to say.

In magazines, we are bombarded with how costly a couture bag or a designers outfit cost, expensive and loaded luxurious cars, how many mansions or estates a celebrity couple own in different countries, and we say, "Man, I want those!" We see the words "The richest man" or "The youngest millionaires. How they did it" and we are mesmerized. Their images on these magazines is what we picture success is. And we think to ourselves, how will I ever get to be in that position? How do I become a success?

And we try. We try and try and try. And we find ourselves lost, stressed, and with deteriorating relationships, and failing health. We think where did we go wrong? What am I doing that is not working? Why am I failing?

At this day and age, it is difficult not to be confused with what success truly means. I mean look at the reality shows on the television. I don't watch them, I am just aware that they exist. Why would people want to be in that position? It's about fame (superficial ideal), because it means money, because money means success. Is it worth it? Really?

There is nothing wrong in wanting, or dreaming a comfortable life, or dreaming big. But we should not forget that anything monetary does not equate to the true meaning of success or the true value of who we are. If you as a person, in your everyday dealings, manifest decency, integrity and respect, live each day without hurting or belittling anyone, doing the best you can so you be a better person for the people you love and the people around you, I think that you are closer to being a valuable person as anyone who is in the Forbes list.

To be successful is to be worthy of all the God given talents and blessings that are given to you; and only when you share your worth to others that you become a man of value. In my opinion, this is what true success means.

Practicing Gratitude

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I am not going to lie. Being here in Yellowknife and being a stay at home mother drove me mad, unhappy, jealous, envious, depressed --- just plain ugly. Almost everyday, I woke up feeling sluggish, uninterested to what the day would bring because I knew how boring it would be anyway. So, I would go to the computer, open my mailbox, and see what the good people of Oprah.com have sent me to read for the day. The subject reads: 15 Things to be Grateful for Right Now. And so, I thought, "Now this I have got to read."

When I clicked on the email, my eyes were caught on these words: Simple Ways to Practice Gratitude Everyday. So I clicked on that and then my eyes were brought to these words: The Power of Gratitude: It's About What You Have, Not What You're Going to Get. So I read, scrolled down, browse, skimmed through words.

And then my eyes were here. Not only my eyes, but my mind was too. "Gratitude is the single most important ingredient to living a successful and fulfilled life." And so I thought, "It's about what I have, and what I have should make me feel successful and fulfilled in life." But it was hard not to think of the things I want, or of the fun things I used to do, or of the people I used to see. It was hard not to think of the financial freedom I used to have when I was still working. Those things, the life I used to have made me feel that I was successful, that I was fulfilled. And this life I have now, I don't feel it.

But I continued reading. I had to feed my hunger for inspirational words that day. I had to know the simple ways to practice gratitude everyday. And as soon as I read, "Write cards or e-mails expressing your gratitude for others: genuine, specific and personal" I immediately clicked on my outlook icon and sent this email without finishing the whole article.

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From: January Go
To: Rania, Rishi, Kathleen
Date: 08/03/2011 1:09 PM
Subject: You are getting this email because...


Hello, hello...

So you are getting this email because I am doing "The Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude Every Day" (and because I am Oprah's disciple) and one way is to send an email: "genuine, specific, and personal" she says.

Yes, I am grateful for you... the three of you and your families and your love ones.

And I am a little smile happier today than yesterday. I hope you are always a bigger smile happier than yesterday.

January ^_^


And within minutes, I received these:

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From: Rania
Date: August 3, 2011 1:20:24 PM MDT
To: January Go
Subject: Re: You are getting this email because...

You are so cute and you made me smile so I am genuinely grateful that you sent me this email.
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From: Rishi
Date: August 3, 2011 1:14:05 PM MDT
To: January Go
Subject: Re: You are getting this email because...

I too am grateful for you and your family and your loved ones.

I too am a little smile happier today than yesterday. I hope you are always a bigger smile happier than yesterday.

just to add to that...you can say this and have your kids, loved ones say this too everyday..."Everyday in Every Way, I'm getting better and better."

Luv Ya Jan! : )
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From: Kathleen
Date: August 3, 2011 1:12:49 PM MDT
To: January Go
Subject: Re: You are getting this email because...

Oh, you and Oprah.
Love you too January
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And so needless to say, that made me happy. Words can do that to me. And so I gave my boys a group hug and continued on with my day. And yes, with a slightly but a lot bigger smile than before.

You can read the full Oprah article here.

A bit of wisdom

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I stumbled upon this inspirational story and I thought that it is too precious that I should share it. It is really easy for us to be consumed by all the superficial things and ideals that we lose sight of what matters most in life. For me, being here in Yellowknife is a personal struggle --- a battle that I am determined to win. I know that every day, in each small ways that I can, I am better than yesterday.



A mayonnaise jar and 2 beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else..
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.
The students laughed …

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car..
The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Spend time with your children.
Spend time with your parents.
Visit with grandparents.
Take your spouse out to dinner.
Play another 18.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.
Set your priorities.
The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’
The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

Thanks Guy B

Source:www.bitsofwisdom.org

Note on Acceptance

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Acceptance sets you free. When you accept the truth now,
you will be released from the burden of the past,
you will then have the ability to see what matters,
and you will have the power to make the next right decision.
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I am doing this...

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Because I know you deserve a happy wife
Because my children deserve a healthy mother
Because I deserve to shine my light











Because I know the world deserves the best of me
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Lovely day in August

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A day about bubbles and ice cream and play
about the sun,
about a lovely day.
about the blue sky,
about the gentle breeze.

It's a celebration,
appreciation
of what matters most
in life
on this lovely day
in August.












Precious moments lift me up

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I am grateful for a lot of things. I truly am. But there are times that I can't help not to have questions in my mind, yearn for things that I miss or for things that I feel my family deserves; moments that I feel helpless for there is not much I can do but to accept what is here.

And in moments that I feel lost, I hold on to the times that I feel are precious.





























Be Yourself

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In a world where you can be anything...
Be Yourself!
Because you are wonderful.
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Don't be sorry I am not Miyako

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This morning, the sun was out and bright. I like that because it meant I could wear my big sunglasses and so therefore hide my face. Yes, that's how big my sunglasses are. Walking on the street, some guy was walking towards me with a big smile, so I was smiling too. He looks Japanese.

Some guy: Miyako?
Me: I'm sorry.
Some guy: Miyako?
Me: I'm sorry.
Some guy, who is about 5'11 ft tall is now motioning his head trying to look underneath my big sunglasses to see my face as if thinking, "I know you. Why are you hiding underneath this big sunglasses? Let me see your face."

Ahh the disappointment when I took off my sunglasses. Smiling, he said, "I'm sorry, I thought you were my friend." So we parted ways.
Walking back, I thought to myself, "Why do we stop at moments like this in gaining new friends? Or even just an acquaintance?"

Next time I have my sunglasses on and someone mistakes me for someone else, it will be a different story. I'm thinking it will go like this:

Some person: Miyako?
Me: I'm sorry, I'm not Miyako.
Some person: Oh, I'm sorry. I thought you were my friend.
Me: Oh don't be. I'm January. Nice to meet you.
Some person: Oh nice to meet you too. (He or she will probably say his/her true name or not and would probably think I am weird or just plain nice)

Either way, the story will end like this: We will be shaking hands and say, "Well, have a good day!" as we wave each other good bye.