Time and time again I find myself falling in love with you
It's like that first look when I first caught your smile
your gaze
the warmth of your embrace
there was a rush of excitement
butterflies
electrifying thrill
chill
Oh it feels like it was just yesterday
but it has been
twelve beautiful years
of every day
of every minute
of every moment
of every breath
that I keep falling in love with you.
There are two kinds of hitting that men give and both should be avoided by married women. The first type of hitting is physically and emotionally painful... puts a woman's confidence down. The second type, though not physically and emotionally painful, and gives confidence, this type of hitting is as equally dangerous as the first one, and sometimes, even more dangerous. The big difference though is that the latter, can be prevented simply by ignoring it, that when a man gives you this hitting, you simply smile, act as if you did not see, nor understood, what just occurred.
If I was married to a writer, I would be showered with letters of love and poetry. I would be made as an inspiration to one of his characters in his novels; he would write songs for me, songs about me. He would write a book and dedicated it to me.
My darling husband, my lover, my best friend. After all these years, being with you feels like waking up to a brand new day, as if all of our days were just yesterday. Your love for me is what keeps me through my bad days, puts a smile on my lips, brings laughter and joy in my heart.
I am at my best for your love for me is profound.
Happy 11 years to us and a lifetime more. -litlmscaffeine-
Today on the Dr. Phil show was a married couple with marital problems. The husband, a body builder and a trainer, buffed and tanned is cheating on his wife, a pretty faced but slightly overweight woman who is the mother of his two children.
They have been married for 10 years and in those years the husband has been cheating with about a hundred girls according to the wife. She said that her husband has a bad temper and have hurt her physically in some occasions too. The husband acknowledges and does not deny these facts about him but continued to say when asked, that he will never be a devoted, faithful husband to his wife or to anyone. What an arrogant, full-of-it-sonna-ma-gun. He admits that he is manipulative too. But with all these I have to say that he was honest. Weird to say about a cheating husband, but you see, the wife knew all those times she had been cheated on. This was the husband's excuse and the fact that his wife has gotten "fat". He says that after he cheats, his wife takes him back and he knows his wife will always take him back so he continues to cheat again and again.
They are now getting a divorce. It is so easy to do this when you are married in the United States. Good for them.
It is very hard to hang on to a marriage that has been deteriorating for a long time, most especially when a spouse is immature, superficial, and does not share your goals and values. Women, please take care of yourselves when entering into a relationship. It is so important that you hold on to your self-esteem so that no man can manipulate you and make decisions for you. Looking good should be coming from the inside, beauty should not be superficial so you do not end up with men who would hurt you and leave you once your look and body has changed. And please ladies, let us have respect to ourselves and to each other. Do not date a man who is already married! Go and get your own! Because if he is cheating on his wife, what makes you think he is not going to cheat on you? And Mr. Good Looking who thinks he is all that, you will get old too, "gravity will kick in", you can take all the pills and help you need to make your weapon operative but let me tell you... what goes around comes around. You will end up alone and the fun you think you are having now will be nothing but the cause of your pain in the future. Your measure of being a man is nothing but a shallow, empty, and superficial being that you are. You are not invincible. No one is.
Have you ever heard of the song, "What's Forever For" by Michael Martin Murphey? This song makes me emotional. I know that this song is for all relationships out there but it is in marriage where two people literally offer each other to love forever. When two people vow to love each other forever, I wonder why is it then that some marriages end?
Some people do not believe in the sanctity of marriage anymore because of the high rate of divorce. Some people feel that marriage is only a contract, a piece of paper that is not enough to guarantee forever. But for me, marriage is not just a contract, it is more than a promise --- it is a sacred vow. Marriage is a blessing, not only you are committing yourself to this person but it is as if you are making a shout out to the world proclaiming, "Here I am in front of all of you.... witness my love to this person as I dedicate my life to him/her."
But marriage oftentimes fail. It fails for a lot of different and valid reasons for the people involved. Marriage afterall, is a relationship between two people who are both subject to failures and imperfections. But what differs marriage from just any other relationships is the blessing from God, or to some the legality that makes the union lawfully acceptable and recognized.
Once married, the couple enters into a higher and deeper level of relationship. They now must hold on to each other for they are building their lives together as one---thus the need for foundations.
I believe that these are the five foundations a couple must have in marriage: 1. Honor. I put honor on the top of the list because it is the one that we must hang on to when dealing with other people. When we are with other people, we are not only representing our own but whatever it is we do affect and reflect our spouse directly or indirectly. If we have honor in all our dealings, we have respect, we value decency, we practice honesty. Between spouses, treating each other with respect is very important. "I respect your feelings. I will not do anything to hurt your feelings."
2. Loyalty. Loyalty is to support each other all the way. It means you are faithful to your vows, that you will be with each other through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse." I will be here with you no matter what it takes, I will take care of you." Loyalty is also simply being faithful.
3. Love. Love is so much more than what you feel for each other and is so much more than physical attraction. Because human is bound to fail, to make mistakes and is imperfect, it is through love that we look beyond each others shortcomings and instead accept each other for who and what we are. I believe that love is not blind but rather looks beyond the imperfections with open heart and mind. Love is always saying we are sorry for our mistakes, for being weak knowing that we could be better, for causing pain to our spouse. Love is passionate, it is a feeling that needs to be transpired, it is our touch, our warmth, our kiss, our expression of adoration and affection. Love is always a two way street, is a tango, is something that must be reciprocated. " I love you and I want to be here with you each morning and night because I want to witness and share your life with me as I am sharing it with you."
4. Communication. Because a lot of things happen in our daily lives, it is very important to communicate our thoughts and feelings. Openness allows us to make a connection with each other. It is a good way to share humor, to express sincerity, to set a compromise and meet in the middle, to discuss expectations, to work things out, to speak up and to listen. Open communication allows us to not be afraid of who we really are inside because we know that our spouse is willing to listen and understand us. "How can I make this better? I know we are a team and we are in this together."
5. Patience is last but not the least. It is not to be mistaken with apathy because with patience, we still show that we care. There will always be times that our patience will be tested by our spouse, times when we want to burst in anger when a spouse just does not listen, does not cooperate, does not understand, simply does not do things you want him/her to do. Patience is the key to make or break our day. We should be able to practice tolerance and distinguish which small things we can let go and which big things need to be discussed. Patience is important in determining if something is worth arguing about or not. Patience, in the long run pays off as it brings calm rather than noise in the relationship, in the long run determines if you can truly accept the person you married for who and what he/she is and live with that person for the rest of your life. "Dear, since I know you do not like asking for directions, and that you know how important it is for me that we get there on time, I have taken the liberty to use the google map."
Marriage to me is not only an agreement but the ultimate seal of that love that no man or woman should be allowed to break. And because of this reason, I truly believe that if people are truly, madly, deeply in love with each other, they will always find a way to be together --- no matter what. If the marriage has fallen, it is simply because the foundations were not strong enough in the first place and thus was not able to stand the tests of time. There is no guarantee for anyone that their marriage is the one that will last forever, but with strong foundations we can rest assure that our marriage can survive any storm one at a time.
Powerful and heartfelt words from my husband. I feel that he is worried about this move. He knows how much I like and enjoy the city... The fun, glam, glitter and all that jazz. He said that the place where he will take me is so much different from here. Wilderness surrounds the small town of Yellowknife. The lifestyle is quiet versus a fast phase life here in Toronto. Life over there is about nature and outdoor activities.
My manager said that I am selfless for giving up things like "running water". He was funny. His speech during the goodluck-on-your-move-party was heartfelt and I thought it was great. It was a good thing that someone blew the surprise for me otherwise I could have been crying and ruining my mascara. But I was truly touched and sad that day.
Selfless is a powerful word too.
I think that giving up all that I am used to in my daily life in exchange of a new life with my family being together is the hardest decision I have made. Being "selfless" however is the easiest choice I had and the only one that made sense. I was asked if I had always been selfless to which I replied, I just want things to be easier. I think and analyze but I don't over-analyze. I am a free spirit who acts with no regrets, always looking ahead, and deals with the consequences instead of worrying about them. I don't like spending too much time thinking when I already know what I want. To me worrying makes things complicated.
A friend of mine said that things happen for a reason. He said that this move is meant to be because this is what I wanted. He said that I had wished in my mind and in prayers for my family to be together and this is the answer to my wish. Indeed God moves in mysterious ways and we really have to be in tuned to Him so we can gratefully accept His will. I guess He wants me to be have the opportunity to be "selfless" and experience the joy of having my wishes granted.
Today is our 10th wedding anniversary. We celebrated it with take out Vietnamese/Chinese food. Our table was made of carton boxes and we were sitting on the floor with our children. We were surrounded by boxes and mess. The ambiance could not be any better and we were all very happy and having a nice time.
I am a juggling, struggling, still learning mother of 3 boys. I love life that everything about it affects me emotionally and spiritually. Dark chocolate and coffee lover.
